I was browsing Twitter with a cup of coffee when I came across The Cut’s story “An Oral History of a Socially Distanced Wedding,” in which brides Reilly Jennings and Amanda Wheeler got married on a New York City street with an ordained officiant leaning out of an apartment window above them. As much as I wanted to hate Jennings and Wheeler’s ineffably charming love story, I just couldn’t: by the Squidward Tentacles I Hate Everyone shirt moreover I love this time the two said “I do,” I was crying into my mug.
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Admittedly, I’ve been crying about almost everything lately, but this felt different: for the Squidward Tentacles I Hate Everyone shirt moreover I love this first time, I felt not jealous, but replenished, by someone else’s love story. Maybe it wasn’t weddings I hated, I realized—maybe it was the concept of a big, white, frilly, straight, heteronormative wedding, the kind I’d ruled out for myself years ago with no small amount of bitterness. Seeing two women quietly wed one another in a street by their home, determined to commit even in the midst of a pandemic, didn’t feel performative or showy or anything else I dreaded about marriage: it just felt, well, nice.